Evolve

I thought that sharing my word of the year in April last year was a one off. It seems not. But even more than that it seems that 28 April is becoming my day for it - exactly one year ago I wrote a post about Irony and priorities, and here I am one year later still living by that.

Partly the delay this year was planned and circumstance, and you’ll understand why as you read on. Another part is focus elsewhere - work, house and more - but anyway, here we are again. The plan for this year was to evolve, and explore where next. Things have potentially changed somewhat since the start of the year, but it will still be a year to evolve and grow.

And before I explain more, how calming is that picture? It’s part of a mindful colouring book and is a trailing vine, which of course would always be completed using pinks, oranges and yellows…

Anyway, evolve.

Yes - my plan for this year was to slowly evolve and learn what I wanted to do. Towards the end of last year we took a major life decision and decided that it was time that we would - and were fortunate enough to be able to - stop working, taking the (very) early break from work (aka retirement) that we’d planned and hoped for, but weren’t really sure would happen quite as planned. So with a three month notice period, much earlier in the year I handed in my notice (electronically) at work. I finish working full time in a week or so, and that’s both scary and exciting.

Our plan was always to spend some time living and enjoying life in London. But like many people the pandemic has brought a rethink, and you’ll already know that our house is on the market, following our offer on a property in Leicestershire being accepted. There is still a very long way to go, especially as I firmly believe the house purchasing system in the UK is broken, so I’m trying not to mentally move in, just yet. It’s hard though!

MOH is also planning to finish work this year, though he’s contracting so there is more flexibility there - I needed to plan it more, and I wanted to give my organisation notice, as that seemed fair. It’s a decision that as I said before has taken a while to get to, and is often met with incredulity - we’re not old enough surely? (we are) and then admiration. We know we’re fortunate - I’m clear it’s not luck that has got us here, it’s good fortune - and we know not everyone will be able to do the same.

My short term plan is to take some time to relax and refocus, and evolve how I spend my time. Though our May will be busy with my brother’s Covid-affected wedding finally planned to take place (third time lucky and all that), a holiday in Northumberland added on to the end of that, so I think it won’t be until June that I’ll really have time to start working it all out.

I know that I do want to spend more time on all those crafts I should have been doing during the pandemic. I’ve plenty of half-started projects, and plenty more that I want to start. I’ve some gardening plans which include finishing the area in front of our pizza oven, and definitely plans to eat more home made pizzas! And of course if we do manage to move then that will take up some time - let alone clearing out what we no longer need, some of which has already been earmarked for those auction sites, and I’m sure there will be much more besides.

So, exciting but also scary times, but bring it on.

Irony and priorities

The irony of the timing and my choice of word aren’t lost on me, but as there’s no time like now to refocus and create new habits I’m going with it. I’ve posted here before about choosing a word for the year. It’s something I meant to do this year but never had the time to contemplate in ways I had previously - usually I post this in January, heck one year I even managed December, but here we are scraping in just before the end of April.

Irony isn’t my word for 2021, it is in fact priorities

And yes, I know if I was living my word then this post would have already been posted, but that’s exactly why it is the right word for me, and why I’m posting it now. With some time to think and structure those thoughts (a little) it seemed an obvious word to choose.

Like many people my pandemic-filled year has been pretty full on and busy with my day job, which I was fortunate to be able to continue to do from home. It’s usually a busy role and with Covid it stepped up several gears. Even after recruiting a team of two to work with me it’s still busy, and while I know I’ll never reach the end of my to do list (I’m at peace with that - I’ve realised over many years that there will always be more to do) it doesn’t really look as if it will be dialling down any time soon. So throughout the various lockdowns and whatnots I’ve been mildly annoyed with media suggesting that lockdowns have meant more free time, learning new skills and full of banana bread making and sourdough baking - even though I’ve made plenty of those during the past year, and will more than likely continue to.

I’ve realised that when I’m at work (even at home) I’m fully immersed, and when I’m not working and spending time at home I’m fully immersed there too. Something had to give and as you may know it’s been this space, and that’s not how I want it to be. I’ve been powered in both environments by “just one more thing” - so maybe I’m not totally at peace with not getting everything done, at work and at home, but not here.

But I’ve also realised that I can choose.

Choice - not a contender for my word, but could have been now I think about it - is in my gift, and so are sticking to my priorities, which I know may flex and adapt as life changes and flexes. I’m still working through what it means for me, and how I put that into practice but as Gretchen Ruben says in Better than Before:

Nothing is more exhausting than the task that’s never started, and strangely, starting is often far harder than continuing.

Reading is one of the things I’m doing more of too, and yoga. If I’m honest, I’m better at reading than yoga but I’m sure like most things, with practice, I’ll improve and be slightly less wobbly. That works for my word too, doesn’t it?

So here’s to feeling less torn in so many directions, or at least I hope that’s what it means - and to prioritising the things that are important to me, which realistically could be getting a piece of work out the (virtual) door, or even closing my laptop so that life outside work can take its time as my priority.

I’d say wish me luck, but I’m pretty sure it’s going to need more than luck to make the changes I want.

Photo by Sara Kurfeß on Unsplash

Making things stick in 2020 with some gumption

It’s almost the end of January, and unusually for me I’ve not shared my word of the year yet. Nor have I posted a decade in review, and in all honesty I probably won’t post anything in great detail. The 2010s were a decade of house refurbs and holidays and many happy times; there were job changes for us both, but we also lost more good friends and family than ideally we’d have liked. We celebrated milestone birthdays, and ten years of marriage with family and friends, and by all accounts we should feel grown up by now, but I’m not sure we really do.

At the start of 2019 I was looking forward to facing the year with tenacity, and I predicted it would be a busy one. I wasn’t wrong. At work for half of the year I covered the junior role on my team as well as my own, and by November, it was tough. MOH too had had a stressful time at work too, and so our holiday in December was a much needed break for us both. It helped recharge our batteries, and for me reduced some of the overwhelm.

This year I think there’ll need to be more of that tenacity, but also more discipline to stick at things. I know I can make things happen, at home and at work, if I stick to them. I also know that I need to stick at the things that are important, and not just the things that shout loudest and seem most urgent. I’ve also recently learnt that I ‘over give’ so while I can stick at things, I need to stick at the right things.

So that’s why gumption seems to fit. This year being I’m certain that being ‘shrewd or spirited initiative and resourceful’ will stand me in very good stead.

The year though has already started with a bit of a health scare for MOH, though now it’s been identified as kidney stones that’s helped, and I hope he’s well on the way to being fixed. We’ve a couple of breaks booked already to look forward to. We’re heading off to Lyon next month and a cottage in the Lake District in early summer. There’s another family wedding, this time in Yorkshire, and milestone birthdays for both of our siblings.

We’ve plans for some work on our house, and in the garden - which we made little progress on last year - and I’m planning to make sure there’s time for crafting too. That all means there’ll be plenty to share here, and 2020 will be as busy as any yet I’m sure. We also think that the decade ahead will be a big one for us.

But with added gumption* who knows what successes 2020 will bring?

Photo by Daria Volkova on Unsplash

* I clearly didn’t give imagery much thought ahead of choosing gumption as my word, a G was the closest I could get!