Reflecting on my week #150

It feels like the hundred and fiftieth post in this series should mark a momentous occasion, and in a way it does, sort of. A Covid kind of way, of course, what else? Even though the restrictions had changed before now, this past weekend was the first time we’d visited a garden since they had. Mostly that’s because, despite being a planner, this planner prefers a bit of spontaneity. This was severely tested though when I tried to book entry to a garden, any garden, on the Early May bank holiday, which is how we found ourselves with a booking at RHS Wisley last weekend. There were no bookings to be had at such short notice and so the planner in me kicked in.

The forecast was for wet weather, which also dampened my plans for a picnic. While soup would have been the optimum choice, it’s hardly normal picnic food, and I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. As it turned out we were relatively lucky with the weather - warm showers - and after a treat steak dinner (the delivered, cook at home sort) we weren’t that hungry in any case, so a coffee and a warm sausage roll did the job just fine.

It was odd, but good, to see people giving each other a wide berth and with the glasshouses and alpine houses still shut (we visited before 17 May when they reopened) we discovered new paths and spaces, in particular the area full of flowering rhododendrons and camellias, which at this time of year was a great time to visit.

The colours! Not even MOH calling them Rosie-dendrons (as he does) could detract from their brilliance.

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There were paler tones too, this very pale lemon one was spectacular but there were also pale pinks and bright white rhododendrons too. They’ve certainly cemented their place on my plant “to get” list, which in their case is a plant to get list when I have a garden that’s appropriate, so I’ve a little while to wait just yet.

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The only thing that could out-dazzle the rhododendrons was the lichen - so to get both, and plenty of it - no words! There was of course much more to see and these delicate succulents tumbling out of an urn were right at the start of our visit and it’s such a calming photo I had to include it here.

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As we were walking around the gardens I was marvelling that things were “out already” and then quickly realising it’s May already and it’s perfectly normal for plants to be flowering. It was the Lily of the Valley that made me stop and think, ours aren’t close to flowering so it was good to get a glimpse of these. Dad has also said that his clematis is about 3-4 weeks behind where it normally would be, it’s not surprising though really is it, given the weather.

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A few weeks back you’ll remember I set my word for this year and set about making my priorities my priority. I knew then that one of my big challenges would be logging off more timely, and on more reflection the very obvious came to me. That’s that we all always have choices and often we are the ones that can make them happen. That sounds more cryptic than it’s meant to be, but it’s true and not exactly rocket science. It’s not necessarily easy, and knowing how much I like a target I’ve set myself a target of logging off by 6pm four days a week. It really isn’t easy, the first week I didn’t manage it at all, but a target’s a target and something to work towards.

I’ve not picked up any crochet for a while, and I really should. I have plenty of new projects I want to try, but I’ve also plenty of projects to finish off - and so my priority really should be to finish those, it’s just that perhaps I’ve not fully signed up to that. Instead one night last week I got out my colouring book and pencils, and while MOH cooked tea had a thoroughly enjoyable time with this mandala. It’s not perfect, or even that symmetrical, but was great to do.

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And I found them. These hooks that is. I’ve been looking for them for a while and then on Sunday I looked in a place I’d not thought of before and found the hooks we’d bought last year safely stored away. Now we stand a chance of getting our garden lights hooked up outside, just as soon as the weather behaves.

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My garden in March

March is when our garden starts to come back to life, and that’s great as I think our garden looks best in spring. It starts with the traditional spring colours of yellow and blue - the yellow of the forsythia and the blue of the grape hyacinths. These follow the daffodils, which this year we didn’t make the most of as with what seemed cooler than usual temperatures we weren’t out in the garden as we have been in previous years. This year our daffodil spotting was mostly from our conservatory window, but this month the weather warmed a little - at times! - so there’s more photos, and we started to work in the garden on those warmer days too.

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The phormium below looks a little crumpled this year, but that too has its own charm. It seems to have less ‘leaves’ than usual but does break up the ‘green-ness’ with its pink stripes, so it’s always a welcome addition. I’m hoping that the crumpled-ness is a normal thing, though this leaf looks like one of the frosts could have interfered with it.

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One of the larger pruning jobs we did last year was to severely reduce the euonymus, this seems to have helped the ornamental quince as it’s full of the prettiest orange flowers. These are intertwined with the yellow pompom flowers of the kerria, a plant which has migrated from our neighbours. I like the boldness of the two colours together, but then again this shouldn’t be a surprise as orange and yellow was one of the hair colourings I experimented on before settling on, what has become, my normal pink and orange. (It looks way better than it sounds, trust me).

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Elsewhere in the garden there’s other signs of new life. The cherry tree at the back of the garden - the one that was hosting the vine and the grapes last summer - also has buds ready to burst out. The blossom, which is being blown about the garden as I type this post, is white and pretty, but not as pretty or spectacular as the pink cherry blossom that people flock to Greenwich Park for.

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There’s reminders of how hardy plants are. This primrose looks a little nibbled, but is steadfastly growing alongside a geranium which has died back over winter, while nestled in its pot in a sheltered part of the garden.

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Just along from the pot nestled at the base of the tree with its burst of burnished yellow is the new growth of the pyracantha. Its thorns sharp and ready to make their presence known, as I teased them back to the supports on the fence, and through the wire trellis to give some privacy.

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The ground at least was soft so unusually we were able to get this spiral support in for the rose closest to the house, normally I miss doing this and the rose bends forward for the light and they end up growing more horizontally than vertically, which also puts them in peril of MOH’s lawn mowing skills.

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I’ve already shared photos from my garden in April, so head over there to see how things progress.

Scents and memories with Sussex Special Candles

This post contains items gifted from Sussex Special Candles

There’s something special about lighting a candle isn’t there? For me it’s a good way to treat myself, and make the time feel more special than a usual evening, lighting a candle while in the bath is a way of helping me relax more easily. And scent evokes memories, just as taste and visuals do.

Recently I’ve been trying these Sussex-inspired candles from Sussex Special. When I saw them I was struck by the idea of replicating scents of places that I’d been, or as you’ll find out, wanted to visit. These handcrafted candles are made with a blend of natural ingredients inspired by the elements of nature you’ll find in Sussex.

I chose the Borde Hill Gardens and Brighton Essence candles and for quite different reasons, but more of that in a moment. The candles are made from 100% natural soy wax which is non-toxic, plant-based and long-lasting.

And the candles don’t disappoint. They’re good value at £12.95 each and arrived promptly and well packaged. For me that’s always a good start, once I’ve decided to order a product I’m less good waiting for it to arrive, and when it does I want the packaging to not only protect my new item, but look appealing too.

What I didn’t expect was information on candle care to be included to help get the most out of the candles. For example, the first burn of the candle should be long enough for the entire top layer of wax to melt preventing tunnelling - I’ve had candles which just burn down the middle which is disappointing, but these don’t. The website also advises that natural wax candles burn slower and are more temperature sensitive than paraffin candles, and much more.

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Memories of childhood trips to Brighton

As kids growing up in South London, Brighton was our nearest seaside town and was frequently our Sunday afternoon trip in good weather. With us all piling into dad’s car for an afternoon by the sea - each of us wanting to be the first to call out that they’d “seen the sea” - something that still happens now, even though my parents live by the sea in Norfolk - it never gets old! Family traditions don’t, do they?

I’m sure our trips were full of the traditional “are we nearly there yet” type questions, and the challenge of finding a parking spot on the seafront and while tricky then I’m sure it’s nothing like trying to find a parking spot today. In fact I suspect cars can’t even park where we used to back then. We’d walk along the stony beach whatever the weather, we’d walk along the pier with me trying not to fall down any of the gaps (in reality there was no chance but I wanted to be sure).

We might wander through the Lanes, window shopping and then we’d head back to the car and back home again, often in traffic - but not like the traffic of today I’m also sure. Such happy trips, such happy memories.

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So having a candle that could evoke these memories and more is a great idea - and it smelt great too. There was definitely the fresh, salty smell which gave this the uniqueness that you’d expect. I realised that the majority of my candles are wintery type smells, the smells that evoke warmth and snuggling in front of a fire, but this candle was much lighter and in a sense, more invigorating.

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In contrast the second candle I chose is somewhere I’ve not yet visited. Borde Hill Gardens has been on my ‘to visit’ list for a while yet, but somehow we’ve not got there. I mean, I know it’s not just going to happen but I haven’t made it happen either. It’s not actually that far from us, and even closer to where my MIL lives, but isn’t that so often the case? Places nearby are the places we never quite plan well enough to get to.

It’s an independent garden - which I always enjoy - and the gardens planted are as “living garden rooms” which I’m pretty sure will equate to plenty of photos!

As you’d expect this one has a floral scent, who wouldn’t want to smell the roses, but there’s also a mix of sweet and spice too. If the candle smells this good, then I can’t wait to actually visit the gardens. I’m definitely going to make this visit happen.

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The candles are in pretty glass jars which are about 8.5 cm high and 6 cm square. This is smaller than candles I’ve had in the past, but with each candle having a 35 hour burn time, their reasonable price and sustainable credentials and with the opportunity to support a family business, I think they’re good value and would make a lovely present for friends, family or yourself.

* With thanks to Sussex Special Candles for providing these candles for me to try for the purposes of this review, all views and opinions are my own.

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